Saturday, April 10, 2010

When in doubt, laugh.


Over the past few weeks, I have talked to many people, many people who mainly discuss their worries and concerns in life. I can't help it, I do this a lot too. But why complain? Life is so short!
Two weeks ago, a lovely girl named Ashley did a presentation to my class on how laughter is the best medication. I was reminded of her presentation yesterday, when I was talking to someone who was on a complaining rant for a little over 10 minutes. Rather than joining in and complaining about my own situation. I thought I would make light of the situation with a joke. Which worked! We left our conversation with smiles on our faces, and she probably was in a good mood for atleast 20 minutes after. 
Yesterday, I goggled to see what the doctors thought of laughter as medication. I summarized the following article for you: Laughter is the best medication
  • Humour is infectious: it binds people together and increases overall happineness
  • Humour and laughter actually strengthen your immune system, boost your energy, diminish pain, and protect you from damaging effects of stress.
  • It really is the best medication, because it acts as both a physical and emotional relief. You know when you laugh so hard that you cry? This 'laugh session' is not only a great work out for your abs, it relaxes your muscles and actually helps cleanse any negative thoughts.
  • Laughter will help you to relax and recharge. It reduces stress and increases energy, enabling you to stay focused and accomplish more
  • Humour will helpyou to see situations more realistically, in a less threatening light. This making situations not so overwhelming
According to studies: The good feeling that you get when you laugh will remain with you after the laughter subsides.
Keep in mind that laughter can give you the courage and strength to find new hope. Even in the most difficult of times, a laugh - or simply a smile - can go along way toward making you rfeel better. And, laughter really is contagious - just hearing someone else laugh readies you to smile and join in on the fun.
So today, try to ask someone, "So, what was the funniest thing that happened to you this week?"
This reminds me of a story, but perhaps I will save it for a later post!

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Now this is living different



Just do it.



(Just Kidding, please don't) Without realizing it, I discovered some lessons about life while watching these talented Jamaicans at Rick's Cafe in Negril last week.

Now, I'm definitely not telling you to hang from a cliff with some of your friends, swinging yourself from a 60 ft tree over-looking the carribbean sea. But, these dare devils are clearly not afraid of anything. Cliff jumping must be one of the scariest things that come to my mind.



As, I was watching these crazy local Jamaican guys jump from these trees over looking the sea, the following thoughts were racing through my mind:
  1. "Who in the world were they listening to that encouraged them to do this?"
  2. "Where are their mothers?"
  3. "Where did this courage come from?"
  4. "Are they on drugs?"
  5. "Please don't fall!"
I decided there are two options for why these men got the courage to do this: 1) They are on drugs, OR.. 2) They were brought up with parents or other influences in their life that instilled in them that you can do anything you put your mind to.

This cliff diving, I imagine is one of the scariest and most dangerous things in life. But don't you agree that it must feel absolutely amazing after you dive in, realize that you didn't break anything and are standing back up on solid ground? The things in life that seem tough and make you want to give up, always end up being your proudest moments: 'Wow, I accomplished that and I'm still standing."

As I mentioned in earlier posts my - fear in life - is public speaking; I decided back in September to face my fears and join a program that basically revolves around public speaking (Public Relations). I often wonder why I didn't just take the easy path and join an art program, but then what type of person would I be if I didn't challenge myself?

I kind of viewed the experience of cliff diving as an extreme way of looking at life. There are those that dive in and take risks and those that sit back and watch them. So, challenge yourself, face your fears and don't look back.

Check out this video of Cliff Jumping at Rick's Cafe













The day that I visited Rick's Cafe in Negril, it was windy, darker out and the waves were thunderous. But, here is a video on a clear day where you can check out what these local Jamaican Dare Devils at Rick's Cafe in Negril, Jamaica: Cliff Jumping at Rick's Cafe


Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Achieving our dreams




Ask yourself honestly:



1. Am i living up to my potential?


Honestly (for the majority of us)... No.

2. What do I need to do to take my life to where I want to take it?

3. what is in my life that gives me a sense of value?





So you must be wondering: what stops us from achieving our dreams?


I'm sorry to break it to you, but it's you.


Your inner voice is what talks you out of your dreams, and that inner conversation is exactly what stops you from achieving your dreams.

The wealthiest place in the planet is not goldmines, Hollywood, Dubai. When you really think about it. It's the grave yard, where inventions, hopes, dreams, ideas we were never exposed to. These great ideas, inventions, hopes aren't out in the world, because that brilliant person talked themself out of it.

We have so much potential, so many great ideas, why do we do this to ourselves?

  1. Fear *Note: Fear of falling and and loud sounds is what we are born with, everything else we learn. *

  2. Comfortable - People become satisfied and don't bother dreaming anymore.

    Personally, I love a state of continual growing. We all should and in every aspect of our lives - relationships, careers, passions, hobbies, skills etc.

  3. Not feeling worthy - procrastinating, squandering your time.

  4. COMPLAINING - what is this doing? You might as well say "It's not really worth doing anything to change it, so I will just accept it and complain"

    In conclusion: SHUT UP and do something about it.

Please keep in mind that someones opinion of you does not have to become your reality.


Key elements to life


Please watch this video before you read my post: Will Smith's 2 Key elements to life

Running and Reading

Wow. What a great body- I mean concept. There is always that little voice in the back of your head saying "Nope, not worth it.""Naw, that's too hard", "What are you thinking? Don't bother" Great people have ignored this voice and this is why they could make it so far in life. Pushing through the hard things in life is what will get you the opportunities to do that great things in life.

Reading other than its obvious benefits such as: expanding your vocabulary, learning from others, and stimulating your mind, etc. I have heard many employers say "One of my interview questions is 'What book are you reading right now?'." Employers want to know that you are continuing to educate yourself.

You want to be able to be a leader in any aspect of life not just business. So here are a few must-reads:

1. How to win friends and influence people, by Dale Carnegie.

2. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen R. Covey, Simon and Schuster, 1989.

Sunday, February 7, 2010

Lessons from the Pro #1.

Rob Hill - Account Executive

Rob Hill verbally kicked me in the ass.

He taught me what to expect when going into Sales (Or just about any industry) – The good and the bad: “Know your product, know your audience, and be honest to your customers. Remember that presentation is KEY. Always be different and creative. Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will get you EVERYWHERE”

In life, I learned from Rob that I need to expect failure and know how to get back up on my feet when I fall down. Be Balanced, Be Honest, and BE DIFFERENT.



Leadership Principles

"Set goals with a sense of urgency. Know that if you fail to plan, you plan to fail and always do what you say you are going to do!”

Here is a perfect personal example for you:

I am currently in the Public Relations program at Niagara College, at first I was really excited about how challenging it would be and how it would give me great skills for becoming a professional (Building on my writing, computer, presentation skills etc). Well being terrified of the presentation-aspect of this program made me want to drop out second semester, and as I was telling a lady from the Canadian Public Relation Society that I met a few months earlier, she told me "You can't quit this. If you keep changing your mind, you will honestly go no where in life." Which sounds horrible to say, but wow did that smack me back into reality. Speaking in front of a crowd is something that everyone should try to get better at on a daily basis. It just boggles my mind now, that I would let a fear like that almost ruin my future as a Public Relations Practitioner.




“Real change is sustained by being accountable to daily habits and behaviors”


Lead by example first.” “Get people excited about doing the things they need to get done.Show encouragement for every success, no matter how small. Create a spark in other people to succeed”


Self Awareness Principle #3.

“Become aware of how others see you. Have a plan in place to do this”


The first thing that comes to mind here is smiling, you never know who is watching you, SO be approachable and start things off with a big smile.

Secondly, DRESS FOR SUCCESS. I work in a Pro Shop and it is so easy to go in there wearing sweatpants and a t-shirt, but I try my hardest to dress as though I'm going for an interview. The tennis/squash/pilates/gym junkies have a day-job and who knows what that may be, and if they're hiring!

Thirdly, when you are talking to people - What are you talking about? Are you always complaining?(I feel like I'm always complaining, but we can change that!) Stop and really listen to what the other person has to say, always think before you speak, make your conversation meaningful and make a great impression.

"Put more emphasis on where you are going, than where you are, or where you have been.”

This principle is HUGE for me.

It's so easy to blame where we are right now from our past but its not true. This principle goes for everything. Even weight loss, you will never lose weight if all you think about is what your current weight is. I remember wanting to lose weight, so that I could start going to the gym to work out. That's what the gym is for! Once I realized that, I quickly saw how ridiculous that was.

So keep your mind on your goals. In regards to business, if you want to work for a specific company, take someone from management out for coffee/or dinner (if you can afford it) and ask about what it is like to work for that company, how to get your foot in the door, what experience do they require etc, and leave them with your business card. Don't go into this coffee date with the attitude that you must get a job out of it, it is important to just get your name out there. They could keep you in mind for upcoming hiring or refer you to other companies who they know are hiring!





Self Awareness Principle #2.


”When you are negative, you attract negative people.” “Surround yourself with people who lift you up, not pull you down.”

Over the years, I have started to focus on my energy on people currently in my life who build me up: it makes such a difference! I encouraged my mom to do the same. If you are miserable because of a rotten person in your life, they are winning in their childish game. You can’t let them bring you down.

Self Awareness Principle #1.


1. Show interest in other people’s interests.
2. Listen empathetically to the interests of other people. Prove to them you are listening to what they have to say.”

3. Find out what is really important to other people. Allow others to understand what is really important to you”

I never realized how much I didn’t care about what people had to say, unless it involved me!! People do have a lot to share and you never know who they know or what wisdom they may have for you!

I landed an internship with a Doctor (Who I have always had engaging conversations with at my gym) and it started from us listening to our interests and what we're involved in!

Monday, February 1, 2010

Take Charge of your life



It is so easy to get caught up in our busy, sometimes drama-filled lives that we stop prioritizing our time on what is truly important to us: Family, God, taking care of our health, creativity, travelling, learning - whatever it is that stirs up our heart and inspires us to move forward.

I have friends who are so obsessed with finding their 'soulmate' that they are neglecting the people in their lives that truly care about them. I have a mother who is so hurt by people in the past, that it is still negatively affecting her 'present'. I have a brother who admits that the relationship he is in is killing his confidence and he refuses to let go. I, myself have an amazing boyfriend and I can't seem to stop pushing him away because I am convinced that he will hurt me.

Can't we just look for the love that is already starring us in the eyes? Why do we have to desire that mystery of what is no longer there/may never be there? If Prince Charming isn't right infront of you, but your best friend is, Wouldn't it make sense to stop complaining about what your missing in life and start enjoying and appreciating every moment you have with that friend?

I think it would really benefit you to watch this video that I stumbled across on youtube. Remind yourself to start living for the right now, no one knows how much longer we have on this earth.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R9ya9BXClRw