Sunday, January 1, 2012

Permission to be different.

Each and every one of us has goals in life: some big, small, short-term and longterm.

It's one thing to dream and another to achieve.
"If you are not excited about your own dream, how can you expect anybody else to be." - Les Brown
"within our dreams and aspirations we find our opportunities." - Ebaugh Sue

Are you prepared to carry-on without anyone's support?
Do you have this idea or passion stuck in your mind?

What if I fail? What if I succeed? 
If you fail, will you still be proud of yourself for following through? Will you still feel accomplished? Will it better yourself? Even if you fail, it could give you the confidence to try in the future a different way.
If you succeed, well really - enough said. You have achieved your goal!

I swear by schedules! Take a look at your week, outline your existing priorities and find out realistically how much time you have allotted for working towards this goal. My goal, for example, is to write a book about something specific I have had on my heart for over a year now.
Start date: January 2012 
Hoping to finish: April 2012  
I have 3 months, and approximately 18 chapters according to my outline - that's 6 chapters a week.. Not exactly realistic
Once you figure out a realistic time-frame, take a look at your week and pick out certain times where you can commit to your project. Take it seriously, and view it as work.

Hard work and Confidence:
It's easy to dream and plan for, but when it comes to doing it. You just have to go for it, full force. Things will come up, with me I had too many things this past summer that discouraged me from accomplishing this goal:
1) Evil thoughts: Do I even have permission to do this?
2) Lack of encouragement: My parents thought I wanted an excuse to not look for work. So as I mentioned support, you need to be confidant that you can support and encourage yourself in these times.
3) Distractions: My previous work shutdown meaning myself and the rest of the staff were let-go. I had enough money saved-up and decided I would take 3 months to write.. and I wasted those 3 months because I felt guilty about not looking for a job.
4) Lack of confidence: This ties in with my situation last summer too.

If you have this idea or passion, be different and give YOURSELF permission to follow your dream. I wasted way too much time looking for people to approve of me writing.
3 things to always keep in mind: Confidence + Commitment = Creation

Saturday, April 10, 2010

When in doubt, laugh.

Over the past few weeks, I have talked to many people, many people who mainly discuss their worries and concerns in life. I can't help it, I do this a lot too. But why complain? Life is so short!
Two weeks ago, a lovely girl named Ashley did a presentation to my class on how laughter is the best medication. I was reminded of her presentation yesterday, when I was talking to someone who was on a complaining rant for a little over 10 minutes. Rather than joining in and complaining about my own situation. I thought I would make light of the situation with a joke. Which worked! We left our conversation with smiles on our faces, and she probably was in a good mood for atleast 20 minutes after. 
Yesterday, I goggled to see what the doctors thought of laughter as medication. I summarized the following article for you: Laughter is the best medication
  • Humour is infectious: it binds people together and increases overall happineness
  • Humour and laughter actually strengthen your immune system, boost your energy, diminish pain, and protect you from damaging effects of stress.
  • It really is the best medication, because it acts as both a physical and emotional relief. You know when you laugh so hard that you cry? This 'laugh session' is not only a great work out for your abs, it relaxes your muscles and actually helps cleanse any negative thoughts.
  • Laughter will help you to relax and recharge. It reduces stress and increases energy, enabling you to stay focused and accomplish more
  • Humour will helpyou to see situations more realistically, in a less threatening light. This making situations not so overwhelming
According to studies: The good feeling that you get when you laugh will remain with you after the laughter subsides.
Keep in mind that laughter can give you the courage and strength to find new hope. Even in the most difficult of times, a laugh - or simply a smile - can go along way toward making you rfeel better. And, laughter really is contagious - just hearing someone else laugh readies you to smile and join in on the fun.
So today, try to ask someone, "So, what was the funniest thing that happened to you this week?"
This reminds me of a story, but perhaps I will save it for a later post!

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Now this is living different

Just do it.

(Just Kidding, please don't) Without realizing it, I discovered some lessons about life while watching these talented Jamaicans at Rick's Cafe in Negril last week.

Now, I'm definitely not telling you to hang from a cliff with some of your friends, swinging yourself from a 60 ft tree over-looking the carribbean sea. But, these dare devils are clearly not afraid of anything. Cliff jumping must be one of the scariest things that come to my mind.

As, I was watching these crazy local Jamaican guys jump from these trees over looking the sea, the following thoughts were racing through my mind:
  1. "Who in the world were they listening to that encouraged them to do this?"
  2. "Where are their mothers?"
  3. "Where did this courage come from?"
  4. "Are they on drugs?"
  5. "Please don't fall!"
I decided there are two options for why these men got the courage to do this: 1) They are on drugs, OR.. 2) They were brought up with parents or other influences in their life that instilled in them that you can do anything you put your mind to.

This cliff diving, I imagine is one of the scariest and most dangerous things in life. But don't you agree that it must feel absolutely amazing after you dive in, realize that you didn't break anything and are standing back up on solid ground? The things in life that seem tough and make you want to give up, always end up being your proudest moments: 'Wow, I accomplished that and I'm still standing."

As I mentioned in earlier posts my - fear in life - is public speaking; I decided back in September to face my fears and join a program that basically revolves around public speaking (Public Relations). I often wonder why I didn't just take the easy path and join an art program, but then what type of person would I be if I didn't challenge myself?

I kind of viewed the experience of cliff diving as an extreme way of looking at life. There are those that dive in and take risks and those that sit back and watch them. So, challenge yourself, face your fears and don't look back.

Check out this video of Cliff Jumping at Rick's Cafe

The day that I visited Rick's Cafe in Negril, it was windy, darker out and the waves were thunderous. But, here is a video on a clear day where you can check out what these local Jamaican Dare Devils at Rick's Cafe in Negril, Jamaica: Cliff Jumping at Rick's Cafe

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Achieving our dreams

Ask yourself honestly:

1. Am i living up to my potential?

Honestly (for the majority of us)... No.

2. What do I need to do to take my life to where I want to take it?

3. what is in my life that gives me a sense of value?

So you must be wondering: what stops us from achieving our dreams?

I'm sorry to break it to you, but it's you.

Your inner voice is what talks you out of your dreams, and that inner conversation is exactly what stops you from achieving your dreams.

The wealthiest place in the planet is not goldmines, Hollywood, Dubai. When you really think about it. It's the grave yard, where inventions, hopes, dreams, ideas we were never exposed to. These great ideas, inventions, hopes aren't out in the world, because that brilliant person talked themself out of it.

We have so much potential, so many great ideas, why do we do this to ourselves?

  1. Fear *Note: Fear of falling and and loud sounds is what we are born with, everything else we learn. *

  2. Comfortable - People become satisfied and don't bother dreaming anymore.

    Personally, I love a state of continual growing. We all should and in every aspect of our lives - relationships, careers, passions, hobbies, skills etc.

  3. Not feeling worthy - procrastinating, squandering your time.

  4. COMPLAINING - what is this doing? You might as well say "It's not really worth doing anything to change it, so I will just accept it and complain"

    In conclusion: SHUT UP and do something about it.

Please keep in mind that someones opinion of you does not have to become your reality.

Key elements to life

Please watch this video before you read my post: Will Smith's 2 Key elements to life

Running and Reading

Wow. What a great body- I mean concept. There is always that little voice in the back of your head saying "Nope, not worth it.""Naw, that's too hard", "What are you thinking? Don't bother" Great people have ignored this voice and this is why they could make it so far in life. Pushing through the hard things in life is what will get you the opportunities to do that great things in life.

Reading other than its obvious benefits such as: expanding your vocabulary, learning from others, and stimulating your mind, etc. I have heard many employers say "One of my interview questions is 'What book are you reading right now?'." Employers want to know that you are continuing to educate yourself.

You want to be able to be a leader in any aspect of life not just business. So here are a few must-reads:

1. How to win friends and influence people, by Dale Carnegie.

2. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen R. Covey, Simon and Schuster, 1989.

Sunday, February 7, 2010

Lessons from the Pro #1.

Rob Hill - Account Executive

Rob Hill verbally kicked me in the ass.

He taught me what to expect when going into Sales (Or just about any industry) – The good and the bad: “Know your product, know your audience, and be honest to your customers. Remember that presentation is KEY. Always be different and creative. Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will get you EVERYWHERE”

In life, I learned from Rob that I need to expect failure and know how to get back up on my feet when I fall down. Be Balanced, Be Honest, and BE DIFFERENT.

Leadership Principles

"Set goals with a sense of urgency. Know that if you fail to plan, you plan to fail and always do what you say you are going to do!”

Here is a perfect personal example for you:

I am currently in the Public Relations program at Niagara College, at first I was really excited about how challenging it would be and how it would give me great skills for becoming a professional (Building on my writing, computer, presentation skills etc). Well being terrified of the presentation-aspect of this program made me want to drop out second semester, and as I was telling a lady from the Canadian Public Relation Society that I met a few months earlier, she told me "You can't quit this. If you keep changing your mind, you will honestly go no where in life." Which sounds horrible to say, but wow did that smack me back into reality. Speaking in front of a crowd is something that everyone should try to get better at on a daily basis. It just boggles my mind now, that I would let a fear like that almost ruin my future as a Public Relations Practitioner.

“Real change is sustained by being accountable to daily habits and behaviors”

Lead by example first.” “Get people excited about doing the things they need to get done.Show encouragement for every success, no matter how small. Create a spark in other people to succeed”